I really hadn't considered a lot of the points people have brought up. I told her that I want to only be friends. She will insist on raising her children in the Mormon church. Of course I have time for my SOs, of course I give of myself to them. It also means that you have to give her something particular to do.
When he is doing these things, he gets really upset with me if I try to talk to him because he's busy. He has let me be a stay-at-home mother while trying to launch my own business and has offered love and support every step of the way. This means first being clear that you want to go on a date. She is going on a mission which means she is heavily invested in performing according to the cultural expectations. When she had a strict 6: If there was a disagreement, one person was supposed to submit to the other, consult a rulebook that covered almost everything, or turn to a church leader to decide for them.
All your beloved friends and family are in Seattle. I wish I could let go of our love as easily as he has, but I just can't. We would have a movie night at his apartment on a Saturday night and the next few days would be great. The odds are definitely not in OPs favor for something like this working for him. Plan a day for them. Be specific every time you ask. So when our children bring home a potential mate that has cultural, racial, religious or other big differences then our child, our concerns immediately flare up.
I can handle a lot of daily mindless, nonverbal things, like cuddling for a bit before bed, but phone calls and even texting can be exhausting in a way that is very difficult to explain. Go for the joy, the experiences, the children to come. With that same attitude they will rise up on the other side of the veil. Have you created your Facebook Club yet. If you decide to marry this man, you both will find a way to be happy and have a wonderful marriage, not that perfect that we see in the Sundays at Church. Long story short, everyone is dead on. I'm married an interventional cardiologist; and I wish I only knew 5 years ago before she started her fellowship what the heck I was signing up for.