I would not want my children raised Mormon which she seems intent on. But now, we embrace our spiritual differences. Their thinking is something like this. I know, I know, this is the last thing you want to hear.
Maybe there is wisdom behind some of the peculiarities. If I even mention wanting to talk just about normal life things, I am told not to tilt the balance between problems and fun. Love is what we do, not what we feel. You are brave and good people and seem to be raising wonderful children who will be lights for everyone with whom they come in contact.
I am married to a doctor for one year now. It's in the Mormon DNA. But the loneliness and the hours ER shifts are taken everything I had left in me. The day could come where she has to decide between her relationship with you and her church. Its was written in shorthand so its hard to read. I don't know what to really do to find time to be with him.
Before that, you are encouraged to date, but not exclusively. Girls aren't socially required to be missionaries, unlike men. You and your fiancee might want to get in touch with one to work out the day-to-day issues of an interfaith marriage. I am so glad I found this blog. It may change your relationship to them forever. He ended up cheating with one of the nurses and his wife left him. Some of the guests talked about the importance of helping hard core mormons to be open and accepting to ALL their brothers and sisters in the church, regardless of sexual orientation. My husband had quite a late start in his career; he will be almost 40 by the time he starts residency so I feel we are already way behind in that sense, but also he has had a very hard time getting into residency as he went to med school outside the US.