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This study used qualitative methods to assess why women engage in heterosexual anal receptive intercourse AI with a male partner. Four focus groups which comprised women from diverse ethnicities were conducted. All groups were digitally recorded for transcription; transcripts were analyzed using the methods of grounded theory to determine themes. The riskiness of AI was assessed within relationship contexts. Past experience with AI including emotional and physical reactions was identified. Among the negative physical experiences of AI were pain and disliking the sensation, and uncomfortable side effects, such as bleeding of the rectum.
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Is it too fast? Do you like him? Do I even like him? No matter your relationship or view on sex, girls talk about this with each other. One night, I went out to a bar with two of my girlfriends to meet up with a guy I was interested in. One thing I will constantly talk about is self-love, the importance of body acceptance, yaddayadda. Or maybe awesomely terrifying? No doubt a flood of super irrational, borderline certifiable thoughts are taking over your mind before things go down. What if I spontaneously get my period? What if he makes a really fucking scary climax face and then I lose my lady boner?
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